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7 Steps to Loving Gay People in Your Church
It was Thursday night and I was roaming around the foyer of our church getting ready to go to the Thursday night Bible study as usual.
A tall woman and a man were talking in the corner about their jobs. A group of ushers were hanging out by the sanctuary door talking about what they last saw on ESPN. People were coming out of the restroom and going into the main sanctuary.
It was business as usual; everyday people hanging out and socializing just before service.
Then Something Strange…
Something caught my eye. It was a group of teenagers in the hallway. They were joking and having fun. All of them looked like what you and I would call “normal”. Except for one.
There was one young man who stood out from among the rest. His hair was black with purple streaks all over. A few leather bracelets adorned each one of his wrists.
His belt was made of leather and metal, the kind that heavy metal rock band singers wear.
It was obvious that he was wearing makeup. You could notice both the eyeshadow above his eyes as well as the black eyeliner all around.
His feminine gestures along with his overall appearance made me conclude that he didn’t really fancy the opposite sex.
Immediately, I had an urge to introduce myself to him in hope that I would become his friend.
All I could think about was how other “Christians” looked him up and down and gave him their disapproving stares. I was desperate to show him that not all Christians were created equal. Some were willing to love him just the way he was and weren’t going to try to instantly make him repent instantly.
The interesting thing is that I didn’t always act that way in the past.
Is This The Way You Feel About Gay People?
Christians are beginning to divide on their opinions about the homosexual lifestyle. The homosexual agenda has done a great job of infiltrating our media and our laws, to the point where it has made many Christians think being gay is really no big deal.
Trevor himself had to deal with someone who made the argument that if you were going to use the Old Testament to say that homosexuality was a sin, then you’d better follow the ENTIRE law, like the law of not wearing two types of fabrics (Leviticus 19:19).
Trevor set them straight in his excellent blog post here.
Learning How to Love Gay People Without Compromise
I do believe that homosexuality is a sin just like the rest of the other sins that will separate us from God. However, I want to win gay people over for Christ and I want to hang out with them (and other sinners too) online at my blog, .
After all, I’m a sinner myself and am pretty good at it too :-).
But you see, there is a wrong way to influence people for Christ. A favorite Bible verse quoted by those Christians who treat gay people harshly is 1 Corinthians 6:9-10:
“Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals,nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.”
They go around and are quick to point out that gay people are included in this group so all gay people are going to hell. However, they forget verse 11:
“And such were some of you. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.”
Here the apostle Paul conveys Christ’s loving heart for gay people as well as all the other sinner groups included in this passage. He points out that there are sinners in all these groups who have repented of their sin.
I totally forgot about this verse until I befriended an ex-gay man in my church who gave me an insider’s view of the gay life style and what it took him to come to Christ. He shared with me the best ways to win gay people over to Christ and that’s what I’m about to share with you right now.
7 Steps to Loving Gay People in Your Church
1) Don’t be quick to point out their sin
The first thing you might feel compelled to do is to tell them that practicing homosexuality is a one way ticket to HELL. But guess what, so is being a drunkard and having sex outside of marriage, but hey, we rarely point out those sins to others now don’t we?
“Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.” (John 8:7)
If you do the rest of these things below, God will open up a door for you to lovingly set them on the right path.
2) Find out what you have in common
When you meet someone for the first few times in a social setting, the polite thing to do is to ask questions to find out what you and the other person have in common. It’s no different when you meet someone who lives an “alternative lifestyle”.
It’s a socially graceful way for you to start building a friendship which brings me to the next point.
3) Build a friendship
If you want to influence that person for Christ, you’ll need to become their friend. Hang out, go to the movies, have lunch. That’s what Jesus did when he hung out with the sinners and tax collectors.
Sure He got criticized for it but He didn’t care. Neither should you and I.
4) Build influence
Become a confidant to that gay person that you are trying to influence. Show them that you care about who they are and about everything that concerns them.
5) Gain their trust
If they tell you a secret, keep it. Become their confidant and give them good advice when there’s an open door. They will in turn trust you and turn to you in their time of need.
6) Find the right timing
Pray and ask God to show you the right timing and to open a door for you to talk to them about their lifestyle. Prayer really does work in this area from my personal experience.
7) Talk to them in love
Finally, if you’ve done everything right, then talk to that person in a spirit of love. Tell them about your own sins and make yourself vulnerable. It will help them feel comfortable to talk about their struggles.
Next Action Step
Yes, this is a long way to help someone to repent of their homosexual lifestyle. It isn’t easy, but it is extremely rewarding.
The next time you meet someone who’s gay remember James 5:20, “Let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a soul from death and cover a multitude of sins.”
Sure time is running out and no one is promised tomorrow so you might be tempted to point the finger and demand for that person to repent the first time you meet them.
But the question is, has that worked for you in the past? If it hasn’t, isn’t it time to try a new approach?
Peter’s passion is to win people for Christ using blogging and social media. He’s the creator of the free guide to getting thousands of Twitter followers, a guide that shows you how he got his first 60,000 followers. To get access to the free guide, click here.