I wrote a post on 18 pastors I could never trust. I thought it would be good to turn the table and give you some thoughts to consider why you might not be able to trust your pastor to tell you the truth.
Let’s assume your pastor is a godly person who seeks hard after God and does what is right, even when it hurts. He still might not be trustworthy to tell you the truth… and that might not be a bad thing.
Here are three things to consider:
1. Are you ready to hear the truth?
Husbands you’ve been where pastors get placed often. When your wife asks you, “Do I look fat in these pants?” Your wife isn’t looking for the truth. She wants the truth as she perceives it at the moment, told to her in a deeper voice. Pastor’s get placed in that same no-win situation often. Good pastors know it’s better to love right than be right, so if you’re not ready to hear the truth you might not be able to trust your pastor to tell you the truth.
Are you ready to hear the truth?
2. Is the time right for full disclosure?
If anyone loudly blesses their neighbor early in the morning,
it will be taken as a curse. (NIV)
Sometimes the right thing spoken at the wrong time isn’t taken for the blessing it’s meant to be. Good pastors know this and hold their tongues for the proper time. If it’s not the proper time you may not be able to trust your pastor to tell you the truth.
Is it the right time for you to hear the truth?
3. Is it truth you really need?
In the Book of Revelation the church of Ephesus is addressed by Jesus.
“I know all the things you do. I have seen your hard work and your patient endurance. I know you don’t tolerate evil people. You have examined the claims of those who say they are apostles but are not. You have discovered they are liars. You have patiently suffered for me without quitting. “But I have this complaint against you. You don’t love me or each other as you did at first! Look how far you have fallen! Turn back to me and do the works you did at first. If you don’t repent, I will come and remove your lampstand from its place among the churches. Revelation 2:2-5 (New Living Translation)
The church in Ephesus did the right things, knew the right things and were right…yet because they lost their first love – likely because they went through theological battles – they were the only church that threatened with being removed. The lesson this teaches me is that truth without love is deadly and love always needs to be preeminent. It’s about speaking the truth in love.
Is it truth you really need?
So it’s not always in the best interest for loving, caring, god-fearing pastors to tell the blunt truth.
If you think it’s part of their job description, tell me in the comments. I know many of you have been hurt by pastors and I wish that wasn’t the case and work with pastors to make sure it doesn’t happen so often.