Today's Negativity Fast Tip. Battle negativity on noble terms—learn how to fight with HONOUR and maintain integrity in adversity!
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Philippians 4:2-4 from The Message, and it says, "Don't push your way to the front. Don't sweet talk your way to the top. Put yourself aside and help others get ahead. Don't be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.”
When I was a young pastor, I started counselling. We did a lot of premarital counselling. One of the things that I would get couples to do is create rules for fighting because you are going to fight. You're going to go at it. Some of that homework that came back, it troubled me. So I said, "Okay, guys, no, let's take a time out. I'm going to give you rules for fighting, and the homework is going to be to practice these rules for fighting."
My goodness, people don't know how to treat each other. And it's not just couples. It is in the workplace. It is in the schools. It is wherever we are. If you are a follower of Christ, you can't live that way. You have got to line yourself up with the will of God expressed in scripture. His will for you is to honour all people.
So that's how we get the acronym HONOUR to help us remember how to honour all people. How do you honour when you fight?
Fight with HONOUR
‘H’ – is for you to hone in on the topic at hand. You speak to the situation. You say, "This is what you did and said, and this is why it disagree with it or it upset me." It's specific.
'O' is for 'Only speak words of life.' You cut out the sarcasm, the condemnation, the shame. Do not let those words come out of your mouth. Nothing should come out of your mouth that isn't for the building up of others.
'N' is for 'Never allow or return name-calling.' Resorting to name-calling is the same as placing curses on people. Don't do it to them, even if they started it. It's okay in the middle of an argument to say, "Okay, time out. I'm not accepting that name. I'm not accepting that label."
‘O’ is Operate in the present. Stop using “Always" and “Never” Nobody always, always, and nobody never, never. So quit using those words. So you operate in the present.
'U' is for 'Understand the other person.' This is why we spell it Canadian one way, right? Because we do need to understand the other person. You listen to what they're saying. You seek to understanding more than to be understood. Can you do that?
'R' is for 'Resolve the argument.' Not everything is going to be resolved, right? You're not going to get everyone to agree with you. You're not going to agree with them, but it's okay. They're allowed to have their own opinion. You don't go to bed angry. You don't bring up the argument with others to rally support or curry favour. You continue to person.
That's how you fight with HONOUR.
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